all have times in our life when we feel we are not coping
well. By learning some coping skills and strategies we can
prepare ourselves and build up an array of tools which help
you in difficult times.
is a list of coping strategies… pick some which suit
with Hurt Feelings…
Horrible things people say to you only hurt your feelings
if you let them have an attachment to something you believe
to be true about yourself in the first place.
yourself you are a good person.
fill your mind with good thoughts about yourself so when someone
says a horrible comment about you, you will be able to shrug
it off, saying ‘That’s not me’.
has been shown that if you rebuke the negative comment said
to you within 20 seconds of hearing it, and replace it with
a positive comment about yourself it will not be stored in
your inner conscious and will have no meaning.
Possible responses to horrible comments…
I’m sorry you feel that way, but I don’t think
that of myself.
That’s your opinion. I disagree!
you take long to think about that horrible comment?
That may be true, but I can live with myself!
Opinion duly noted. Thanks for that!
Sometimes by using humour and wit, you can diffuse a tense
situation. Laughter is powerful. Learn to laugh at yourself!
If you can do this, there won’t be much that causes
angry feelings in you and you won’t feel the need to
react to their nasty comments.