Why do people bully?
pretend they are tough
To try to get others to like them
To hide their own fears
They copy others who bully
They are unhappy
They don’t like who they are
is a Bully?
A bully is someone who takes advantage of another person that
he or she thinks is more vulnerable. They try to gain control
over the victim or to gain control over a social group. This
type of behaviour occurs in all ages, sexes and social groups.
Most adults, if they think about it, have experienced bullying
too. Bullying usually involves deliberate hostility or aggression
toward the victim. The interaction is painful and humiliating
and distressing to the victim. Note the word deliberate.
do people bully about?
of the things people bully about...
person's weight - their race - being gay - having special
needs - being a traveller - a person's religion - sex - facial
features - poverty - clothes style - self-harming...
How does Bullying make you feel?
not wanting to go to school
– The Facts
Bullying happens until it is stopped
Bullying can happen to anyone
Bullying can be one person or many person
Bullying can happen anywhere
Putting people down
Making someone feel left out
you are Bullied…What can you do?
is being bullied… How can you help?
help – don’t keep it a secret
the bully - Violence is not the answer
with other people – try not to be on your own
to someone who can help
to your parents or a teacher
Bullying and Being Bullied
you have been a bully, or a part of a group that bullies others
it is time to STOP!
Bullying will keep happening until someone puts a stop to
No-one has the right to hurt, humiliate or violate another
you feel angry enough to hurt someone or bully them…
try doing any of the following:
Walk away from the situation
Hook up (calming exercise – ask your leader for details)
Change your thoughts about that person
Try talking to the person about what is making you angry
Speak to a trusted adult about why you think you bully and
what you get out of it
Give yourself space – count, close your eyes and breathe
you still feel that bullying someone is the thing to do…
need to ask yourself what it is about that person that you
We can’t like everyone we meet in our lives and you
are not going to always get along with people, but you do
not have the right to make their lives a misery by bullying
If you find the person annoying or think by bullying them
you will put them down a peg or two because they seem too
popular then the best thing to do is to stay away from them.
Here's a reframing
exercise that will help the victim or the persecutor to
reframe how they think about the other.